A: Thanks for the question! There are so many different ways to play around with domination and submission. Below, you’ll find 13 suggestions for Domination/submission games to play. Keep in mind that domination and submission are pretty wide categories, and mean different things to different people. Some of the games on this list might sound really hot; some may feel like they cross the line. Talk through each of these suggestions together and see which ones seem safe and sexy to the two of you. Of course, don’t forget to keep talking about boundaries and safewords. You can’t play these types of games unless you and your partner are great communicators who are willing to talk about the ins and outs of sexual safety!
I think sex is serious business. Seriously fun, that is. That’s why I’ve decided to up the fun factor even more by devising these sexy bedroom games. Playful sexual activities not only infuse your erotic encounters with a lighthearted vibe, they also allow you to explore fantasies in an easy, nonthreatening way. So get psyched for some very friendly competition and let the games begin.
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Q: “I've read your guides on asking to be dominated and dominating someone, but I was hoping you could give more specific suggestions of power play games that we can play together. My partner and I have already talked about the fundamentals like safety, consent, and boundaries, and we’ve played around with domination in some pretty tame ways. We’re looking to up the ante and try something more intense. Do you have any ideas for roleplaying or trying specific scenarios?”
Once you've gotten to a point where you and your partner are fully familiar with the ins and outs of each other's bodies, the sex can lose a little steam. But sexual role play is a fantastic way to keep the motor running by exploring each other's minds instead — going deep into fantasies can be so much more sexually fulfilling than simply having sex the way you normally would. This game encourages couples to explore different fantasy role play scenarios in brief bursts using cards. Regardless of who wins the game, the real winner will be your sex life as you become more comfortable trying out role play on your own after you put the cards back in the box.
Here’s another simple game: the sub must ask the Dom permission for every single thing they do. Even small things. You can do this inside the bedroom, and the sub can ask for permission to do things like take off their clothes, move their body, or touch their Dom. Or try it outside of the bedroom, where the sub can ask for permission to use the restroom, eat, or go outside.
How to play: Maybe you’ve already experimented with edible bedroom treats, but for this game, you’ll be embarking on a tasty version of hide-and-seek. First, cover your eyes with the blindfold. Then, have her place drops of different flavored foods on various parts of her body. For example, she could put a dollop of honey behind her ear, rub a little chocolate syrup along her lower stomach, or dab some maple syrup on her nipples or any other place she’d want you to lick her. Then lie down and locate all the specific taste treats using your tongue. As you explore every naughty spot, she’ll get sweet surprises along the way. Once you’ve savored all of her yummy parts, switch roles and have her taste you all over.
It's easy to fall into a routine, especially when it comes to foreplay—or lack thereof. These sex games concentrate on the journey, making the final act especially fun.
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For a truly adult party (in every sense of the word), you could always turn to a sexy game. Something to, ah, stimulate the senses. Get the blood flowing, if you will. These games can be played as a couple, with a group of people who want to hook up with each other, like swingers, or, in some cases, simply with some friends (assuming they're the uninhibited types).
For those yearning to party like a grownup, but unaware of how to do it, listen up. If you’re past the point of playing something tacky like strip Twister (is that a thing?), but vow to never be boring enough to whip out a Settlers of Catan board, this list of adult party games will turn your party into a PARTY. In all caps.
Holy crap, someone has finally made a game involving Monopoly that won’t end with shrieks of anger and tears? Wow. The rules, while simpler than the O.G. board game, aren’t as easy as the aforementioned games. “Players roll the dice and land on a sexual space. Each sexual space is a sexual task. Tasks range from French kissing to full on intercourse. Purchase the space, and it is yours for the game. Every time your partner lands on your sexual space they have to perform that sexual task with you. Your partner can get out of tasks by paying money.” Think of it as owning a Get Out of Jail Free card, except — instead of jail — you’re getting out of a life of not having constant blowjobs. Win/win!
If you want to experiment with what it’s like to take on Dom and sub roles outside of the bedroom, schedule specific times that the sub will be available to their Dom. It might be certain dates, or a certain block of time each day. Come up with your own specifications for what it means for the sub to be “ready”. For example, the sub might have to be prepared to be penetrated at any time. Or they might be expected to sit quietly until given a command.
Sexy Slang is great for parties made up of all your new couple friends who might still be figuring out the ins and outs of their new partners. You get to choose from a list of 69 (woo!) challenges, ranging from Hooters, Hoohas, and More to No, It's Not a Back Massager, and Sexy Slang's Bedroom Challenges, as well as teaming up to decipher XXX pictograms. You get to answer titillating (their choice of words, not ours) questions in order to score a — wait for it — Booty Prize. This is the game you want to whip out (our choice of words, not theirs) for couples looking to put their inhibitions behind them.
How to play: Pick a time interval — 20 minutes, let's say. For whatever interval you choose, tease each other with kissing, touching, and other forms of foreplay. But no matter what, absolutely do not allow penetration until that much time has elapsed.
How to play: Blindfold him. Lead him to the bed or other locale. Then proceed to ravish him — slowly, recklessly, teasingly — however you feel like doing it. You call the shots. Let his arousal be your guide.
Tip: Don't put mint or eucalyptus oil on sensitive genital areas. But if you have a non-irritating lubricant, greasing up the sexual equipment can be part of the fun. But remember that oil-based lubricants, including massage oil, can degrade latex. So don't play this game if you're using condoms or a diaphragm.
How to play: Your partner shaves your pubic hair. First, take a hot bath to soften your skin and hair. Second, use scissors to trim the length. Third, lie on the bed or on a table and let that shaving expert, your mate, foam you up and shave you. It's scary at first, but if he's gentle you will not get nicked. He can shave everything or just neaten you up.
How to play: Have your partner lie down naked with her eyes closed—or even better, blindfold her. Use one item at a time to stroke her body and have her guess what each one is. If she gets it wrong, run the Popsicle over her vaginal area (just for a nanosecond; you don’t want to cause her pain) to give her an exciting, icy jolt. If she gets it right, reward her with a warm-lotion below-the-belt massage.